What's up with all of this sexual harrassment these days...

So i was going to make a video about this but i thought, im not in the mood to put on make up so..I'll just write this. As always, excuse spelling, ect..im writing this in a hurry. All we see in the news these days is sexual harassment and many people..men and women wonder why it has taken so long for these stories to come out. So I'm going to take a few moments to logically talk about this.

Understand I'm not man hater, and honestly while my best friends are female..I have more male friends in general...but guys, men..are you REALLY this suprised to find out that men in positions of power used this power against women, or tried to at least use their status to get laid? I'm not, I'm not in the least. I mean I can't walk through a parking lot without some dude trying to get my number. Not only that I have had actual conversations with men where i tell them that its not appropriate to just hit on women in every situation..and you know what I was told in reply??? Well what if I miss a chance to get with someone becasue i dont walk up to her in a parking lot or gas pump. That's right men are more concerned with getting laid than the very real fear and uncomfortable feelings this causes women. SERIOUSLY. So no first of all I'm ot suprised and yes, I'm inclined to believe women. Men like a conquest..no I dont get it. I think often a man just wants to "win" (aka have sex) with a women..again, yes i believe these women.

There aren't hordes of women out there trying to get you in trouble for talking just talking to them. Talking about sexual harassment and God forbid rape is a hard subject for many women. It causes fear and embarrassment. Now that women are coming out..I think its getting easier for women o say, hey thins thing happened to me..and I need to say something. In some cases its spanned by politics obviously..but it has all sprung from the same well of.. the current me too movement. I literally heard on talk radio a women stating that women are at fault if they show cleavage or wear a short skirt. This proves this kind of thinking is still out there. Its like saying if you forget to lock your door then you can't get robbed or the robber has a right to your things.. What is this kind of thinking??? ugh. Yes the me too movement has made women think about things they pushed down and feel able to talk about it. this really shouldn't be hard to understand, unless you have never been afraid to lose your job..or worse at some point. I have, I've been there.. and it feels gross. I ignored it..I had stuff to do..but that doesnt make it ok.

Look guys I have, through my life had various men say, touch and do inappropriate things. I've worked with men who have been grossly inappropriate..and met guys who claim to have a job for me..but really just wanted alone time with me. All of these things happen..and I for one *late or not* am glad these things are coming out. Men shouldnt have a "casting couch", sleeping your way to the top shouldnt be an option. It holds women like me, women who do not do such things..back. So yeah, late or not I'm glad men are being called to the curb. Hell most of these men (I'm looking at you politics) are suffering no consequences for their actions. so save it people...i don;t feel bad for men.

Now look I'm not saying being sexual inappropriate is the same is harassment or harassment the same as rape. It isnt the same, its all different..but the fact is none of it should happen. I'm not looking to send men to jail who haven't committed an actual crime..some of these man have no committed crimes..
but they are still NASTY.
they are Nasty Men. (HAHA)

I have an idea for many of you men out there worried about getting in trouble these days.Here is what you do..don't have sex or solicit sex from anyone you are not in a relationship with. Have a relationship with only one person at a time. Don't randomly touch women/men you aren't in a relationship with or related to. Most certainly do not talk about sex in the work place. Do what you want but old tried and true rules of society need to come back...and if the men in trouble right now had followed these rules none of them would be in trouble. Stop thinking with your dick ALL THE TIME. I get a lot of people won't like what I have to say there..men and women..but that's ok. i'm not telling you what to do with your sex life, but after reading on social media about how "afraid" men are of being taking to court over their behavior, maybe some of y'all need to slow down. It REALLY isnt that hard to act appropriately in public.. really. If you can't learn to interact with society..then takle a step back..and follow my rules of engagement.

OH..adding this as a post note: DONT HAVE SEX OR RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE UNDER THE AGE OF 18. I shouldn't even have to add that one. No, I dont care what the age of consent is on your state.. just don't.

You can, can your Holiday, religious negativity

First of all I love holidays. all of them. To be honest whatever your nationality is or religion, there is a decent chance I'd be up for celebrating whatever you are celebrating. Everyone always says stuff like...i dont need valentines day to be romantic or Christmas is to commercialized...but the fact is, most people actually do need to be reminded to be romantic and most people do need a reason to be more giving.

I love getting all wrapped up in it too. I want to dress up every Halloween and have a special night to decorate the house for Christmas. I want to wear green on St. Patrick's and drink a good Irish Whiskey. Life is short, the moments and time we have here to be together is limited..I want to make the most of every moment.

...and yes, I am religious. Your feelings on my upbringing are moot. It's really none of your business but I'm going to clue you in anyway. I really don't even care if there is a God or not. That isn't the real point is it? if there is a God I'm doubtful he would want me to be a good and thankful person just becasue of his existence. If you truly understood family, spirituality and community...you would understand that. Many of you don't, many people who are devout don't, that's ok...but don't try and put me down becasue you don't understand me. Or do, in the scheme of things I imagine it doesn't matter to much what you think. Believe me when I tell you, you have a God too...you have a set of belief's you adhere to. Maybe that God is science, maybe it is politics, maybe it is many things..but you have your core theories too.

 

So what is my point in this post??... I don't have time for your negativity. I don't care that you hate Christmas or Halloween or Memorial day. I don't care about your graph showing me that Christmas came from aliens in Egypt or whatever. I'm not interested in how romantic you think you are without Valentines day. I was lucky to be raised in a family steeped in tradition, values and love. I'm sorry if that wasn't your experience. I remember having the family over at Halloween and my mom always making us all Chili. I remember waking up to Santa, heck even now if I'm home Santa still comes. (#Ibelieve)  I remember my dad always getting my mom flowers on Valentines day and us kids always getting candy. I remember numerous memorial day picnics...and I'm sorry if that wasn't your life...but I'll keep celebrating each and every holiday. I'm going to keep making memories with my loved ones. I'm going to thank God on Thanksgiving for another year and I will try and keep Christmas in my heart all year long. I'm going to celebrate life every chance i get.

So as the holidays approach if you post something negative..I'll probably link this blog post for you to read. I hope those of you who haven't learned the true spirit of well..any holiday really, will catch a little magic in your heart this year. To everyone else May God bless you and keep you during the holiday season.